Here in the United States we celebrate Mother's Day on Sunday. As one of five children, I always envisioned having a house full of kids. It was something I just knew would happen since I was a kid. My mom Anne was one of five, and my dad John was one of five. As it turned out, my one child will turn 14 two days after Mother's Day- and on some years her birthday falls on Mother's Day! When Child Two didn't arrive, I experienced deep sadness and loss...Read More
When life hurls us unexpectedly into the mystery, into bewilderment, grief, longing or despair, there are deliberate moves we can make to give space to the feelings. It is not about suppressing, avoiding or denying heartbreak, but giving space to the tender places by surrounding them with a larger space of awareness.Read More
One of the brand-new stretch experiences was being a guest on a live radio show with callers dialing in from across Canada. It was a joy to hear their comments and engage live with them. You can listen to that interview here.Read More
With so much vying for our attention, we get distracted and listen only partially as we speed through our day. Whether you are thinking of what is unchecked on your to-do list, or mulling over what the speaker said ten minutes ago, or feeling pulled by your vibrating phone, it is hard to listen deeply.Read More
Finding greater calm, focus, and joy doesn’t mean you have to add “one more thing” to your already busy schedule
In a recent interview for Business Insider's podcast "Success! How I Did It," bestselling author Tim Ferriss said that nearly all of the 140 successful people he included in his latest book, "Tribe of Mentors," had some sort of mindfulness or meditation habit. So what exactly is mindfulness?
Mindfulness is a superpower that allows you to deliberately direct your attention where you want it to go, instead of having it tossed about by racing thoughts and turbulent emotions.
If you’re a person who always wants to do things “right,” you can relax. There is no single “correct” way to do this form of moving meditation. You can walk at a very slow pace, concentrating on the movement of each foot and coordinating your breath. You can also walk at a regular pace, or even walk briskly. The idea is to choose a focus of attention, and when your mind wanders, just bring it back to your step, or wherever you decide to place your awareness.Read More
If you could listen to the voice in my head during a typical workday, you might hear:
“Stay focused, you are distracted. Don’t forget to update the coaching contract for Jon. I am not going to get the proposal developed on time. I forgot to pick up the vacationing neighbor’s mail. Is the orthodontist appointment this week or next? Oops – nothing in the house for dinner again!"
With the New Year off and rolling, perhaps you have new projects, deadlines, and responsibilities in your work and life. Are you feeling excited and enthusiastic, or stressed out and overwhelmed? Or maybe a bit of both?Read More
The key to making any lasting change, is repeating many small steps over time. That’s true when it comes to establishing a mindfulness practice. And it’s also true when it comes to setting the intentions that are the foundation for what you do and how you become stronger, kinder and more effective in 2018.Read More
Did you know 43 percent of women rank stress and anxiety as a negative influence on their health? Some 55 percent of millennial women say stress and anxiety are at the top of negative factors affecting their health, compared to 44 percent of Gen-Xers and 33 percent of baby boomers, Denise Maher writes in “Stress and Anxiety Sabotage Personal Wellness, Women Say.”Read More
Fires, earthquakes, hurricanes, policy changes, stories of how humans treat each other and our planet- the news of our current reality is tough to take in. We can find moments of refuge that provide strength and well-being, and allow us to fortify ourselves in the midst of the currents around us.Read More
My daughter plays soccer on a team made up of some of my favorite people—and I’m not talking about the kids. I mean the parents. The soccer team has played together for 11 seasons and the parents are now a band of friends in their own right. We lead busy lives and it’s fun to reunite on Saturdays at the games. But we often miss the magical moments on the field, because we’re caught up in catching up.Read More
A mindfulness jar is both a wonderful metaphor of how mindfulness works, and also a tool for slowing down and calming our minds. By shaking the jar, letting it rest and watching the glitter fall and settle on the bottom, we bring our attention to the sparkling glitter and our mind and bodies calm and relax.Read More
Life is not always a walk in the park - at work or at home. Failures happen, contracts are canceled, people move on, illness occurs. One of primary things that get in the way of flourishing is our habits of how we relate to what is hard. Often, there is a pattern of self-criticism, feeling as if you are not doing enough, or that you need to do better.Read More
I wrote a blog post four years ago that mindfulness had reached the tipping point because it was on the cover of TIME magazine. That was only the beginning. Now it has permeated almost every segment- I facilitate mindfulness programs for high-tech, banks, media, insurance, consulting and business schools. Why has it become even more of a revolution than ever?Read More
Our new year is underway, and the pace of change has been unprecedented. Whether you gathered over the last month to celebrate, to reflect, to march, or to observe – you likely experienced connection with others. How did it feel to connect? To share your fear, your excitement, your support with another? Connection, when combined with compassion, empathy and positivity, is incredibly powerful. It allows the overwhelming to become manageable.Read More
As we reflect in the new year, many of us set intentions with the goal of increasing our health, happiness and well-being. Here is a question to explore: How generous are you? Dr. Richard Davidson, founder of the Center for Healthy Minds, teaches that generosity is one of the four pillars of well-being (the others being attention, resilience and positive outlook) - and being generous is one of the most sure-fire ways of activating positive emotions in the brain and body.Read More
In any bookstore or newsstand, there is now a wealth of resources available for learning, starting a meditation practice and deepening your understanding of mindfulness, compassion and leadership, but I am almost always asked when teaching programs for a list of what I recommend. For years I have been the geek with a stack on my nightstand, and our work at PurposeBlue integrates a lot of the teachings from resources below. So here they are... my personal favorites.Read More